Although I am very open to marriage to in the next 2ish to 3 years, I'm in no rush. I'm not letting myself go, and my value is not dropping any time soon.
How right he is! Indeed, I’ve noticed that the shaming language that is used to tell me that they should “man up” and marry seems as if it is targeted at women. No, guys, your sexual market value is not dropping off a cliff in your thirties. With just a little bit of foresight, your 30s will be the time were your life will literally take off --- this is certainly something I witness among my single friends in their 30s with solid careers who have all their bases covered.
However, lack of experience then makes some guys who haven’t much dealt with women end up with a potentially bad deal. Surely quite a few of you know cases were some poor guy, about to get somewhere in life, ended up with literally the first girl who wanted him. To tell one of the more unpalatable anecdotes: I once took an evening course on literature at university, and one fine day one of my classmates just couldn’t contain her glee at having gotten her hooks into an engineer who was about to graduate and, “yes, yes, he’s got a job offer, six figures, he’s talking about buying me a ring as well” — after they had known each other for something like two weeks. I think because women rarely viewed me as “relationship material” they sometimes tended to be fully open about their view on other men in their life. In fact, I’ve been in plenty of situations were a woman let me know that she was in a relationship, but hit on me anyway. The sub-communication was apparently along the lines of “don’t worry, I won’t pester you about a relationship because I got that part handled”.
This wasn’t as much of a digression at it might seem. Sadly it is a fact that far too many men settle too soon, being unaware of what kind of deal they are getting. Manosphere readers — I recently saw the term “manuresphere”, which I deem quite fitting — may be quick to mention the “cock carousel”, but that’s at best an exaggeration. The bigger problem is that those naive men may have notions of love and devotion, not realising that they are part of an economic transaction. The women they are interacting with are fully aware of this. You may have heard stories of women using sex as a bargaining chip. Does this sound like something a woman who doesn’t view a relationship in economic terms would do?
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