I had an interesting conversation with a
male Swedish feminist typical Swedish guy the other day. As it is often the case, once they have a few beers, they often make some very surprising statements that hint at some of the confusion they experience due to decades of indoctrination. He must have had two beers at this point, and part of his true personality apparently came through, because he suddenly talked about a “female friend” of his (translation: fuck buddy). He is close to 30, she is in her mid-thirties, and she seems to sometimes lament that she cannot find a guy to commit to her. For a moment I considered informing him about the fact that his fuck buddy relationship was somewhat one-sided, since she apparently has bigger plans for him. [My prediction is that she would end this arrangement as soon as she got a guy to really commit to her, but for plenty of women getting at least some dick on the side and fostering the delusion of a relationship is better than getting none at all and spending every evening with a bowl of ice cream in front of the TV.]
All of that is just a prelude to the rather amusing statement I then heard, as he claimed that nature was “unfair” to women. Said unfairness seemed to consist of the fact that men can be promiscuous at a time when women tend to start to panic because a lot of those guys who happily blew a load in them disappeared as quickly as they came, sometimes literally, and all those she “really liked”, because they were hotter than the average she could normally get, had no sustained interest in her.
As I thought about that, it quickly dawned on me that there is no unfairness at all. Women blossom sooner, for sure. So, a woman in her early thirties who has a hard time finding a guy who wants to keep her should first and foremost ask herself how it happened that she ended up being alone after 20 years of sexual activity.
