I recently made a post about Real Social Dynamic’s Julien Blanc. As I did some further online research, I was amazed at the level of opposition this guy is facing, and it largely has to do with his utterly boorish behaviour, like advocating to grab a girl’s neck and pushing her head down to your crotch. In the videos it’s quite clear that the women are not at all pleased with him literally forcing himself upon him. Let’s just have a look at this lovely picture as a reminder:
The negative reaction Julien Blanc is experiencing is the societal equivalence of a girl rejecting a guy outright in a club. You’ve probably experienced chicks insulting guys who hit on them, or pushing them away. Such reactions should be extremely rare. Just speaking from my own experience, I can only recall one single instance where a girl openly showed her disapproval. As I quickly realised, she was drunk and pissed off at something. In fact, this was an instance of me merely being friendly and wanting to just make some small talk, without any ulterior motive. If anything, this taught me to only talk to girls when I was actually sexually interested in them.
As anybody who got laid at least a few times can hopefully confirm, girls really do want to get laid as well. It’s basically a matter of finding a girl who is into you and leaving the club with her. Old-style PUAs like Mystery advocated giving girls backhanded compliments, more deranged characters recommended insulting the girl, since in their twisted worldview this would make them more attracted to the “bad boy” you allegedly are. Yet, all of this is utter nonsense. Only very few women enjoy being treated badly. Most just won’t put up with such nonsense.
While a guy like Julien Blanc apparently assumes that you have to force yourself upon a woman, the reality is that if she’s into you, she’ll happily follow along. This reminds me of the “last minute resistance” bullshit Mystery, Style and all the others were constantly blabbing about. This is likewise nonsense. Once you’re back at your or her place, she normally can’t wait for you to put your cock in her. Otherwise you wouldn’t even have ended up in that situation with her.
So, what's the upshot of all this? It all leads back to the insight that seduction is mutual, and only happens when both want it. Some years ago plenty of people online took offence with this statement, while nowadays it's apparently "common sense" --- as if there never were any moronic gurus around. If she wants you, you only have to find a way to make it happen. On the other hand, if she is not interested in you, you could either waste a tremendous amount of money, time, and energy to make her realize what a great catch you are, and in at least 99.9% of cases you won't succeed anyway. Or, you do the smart thing and try finding some other girl who is interested in you.