In my experience, I know it's practically impossible for people who have hair to understand the struggle that is balding at a young age. They will offer you "solutions" like shaving it all off, getting a tan, and "becoming huge". As if those two last advices were healthy or so easy to put in practice. But in fact, they won't help at all, you will still remain "the bald guy" in the eyes of society. And in a time where looks are glorified in the media, you don't want to be that guy.
First of all, yes, if you are not Hunter S. Thompson or Trevor Philips from GTA V, it may be worth thinking about shaving your head in case you’re losing your hair. A tan, or a healthy complexion is also often advantageous. Having the color of a broiled chicken, which, for instance, many Swedish girls have all year round, is not the best possible treatment for your skin, though. “Becoming huge”, or at least gaining some muscle, is also a good way to become generally more attractive. Note that I am not saying that you need to be bulked. Just having a toned body will go a very long way in terms of increasing your looks. If you “get huge” but all your muscles are covered in fat, it won’t do you much good.
But let’s talk about the general attitude in this post. To me it seems that the guy is upset because girls aren’t beating a path to his door and dropping down on their knees right away. Who do those bitches think they are, for crying out loud? Seriously, though, think about it: on the one hand you have guys who desire good-looking women, but on the other they think they have to bring nothing to the table at all, or at least nothing that requires any kind of profound effort. Talk is cheap, which arguably explains why so many guys lapped up Mystery Method back in the day, or even nowadays still think they should develop their “inner game” by reading manosphere blogs instead of, you know, lifting some fucking weights. Everything is better than changing your appearance, it seems.
Yes, all of this takes effort. Getting a hair cut, or shaving it all off, is a matter of half an hour, if you enlist the service of a specialist. A tan is easy to get, too, which arguably explains why the Oompa Loompa look is commonly seen as trashy nowadays. Working out, though, does take some effort. However, does anybody out there think that hot chicks were born with skinny, well-defined legs, a firm round ass, and a flat abdomen? Granted, it seems to take less of an effort, for a young girl, to get in shape than for a guy, since they don’t need to build muscle. As a guy, you can likewise go for the toned look, but in order to get girls to look at you — but only when you are not looking, of course — you have to start lifting some serious weights.
This is of course not “easy to put into practice”, to quote Mr. Balding, but that’s good for you. Being in shape is a huge indicator for health. Just being toned puts you in the top 10 % of men, easily. Getting to the level where people ask you whether you work out, i.e. slightly muscular but not “huge” puts you in the top 5 %. I admit that I’m pulling these numbers out of my ass, but they are conservative estimates. When I look around, it is rare to see guys who are in good shape. Likewise, I see very few girls who seem to be in great shape. Sure, you see quite a few skinny-fat girls, i.e. thin but don’t seem to exercise. Even in the gym plenty of women only seem to be there to waste their time with a low-effort cardio routine.
But what’s the moral of this? It’s simple: The average guy is lazy. The average girl is lazy as well. Hot girls are hot because they invest time and effort in their looks. With some luck, you’ll even find a woman who not only spends many hours per week in front of her make up mirror, but also on her exercising regimen. Of course women who work out do so, to a significant degree, in order to be attractive to top-shelf men. So, what makes more sense, if you are a sexually frustrated guy who neither likes the idea of celibacy nor finds it practicable to pay an escort a fair price for her services: lamenting that women are superficial, while celebrating your own blind spot in that regard, or acknowledging that humans are visual creatures and making an effort to improve your appearance? If you want to take the easy way out, then please shut up and don't complain that you don't get laid.
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