While we were discussing whore mongering the other day, someone remarked that there is the risk of contracting STDs. I strongly believe that the risk of contracting an STD from a proper professional, i.e. not a bargain basement hooker who turns tricks to finance her drug habit, is much lower than catching something from a regular woman. An elite whore lives by her reputation. In fact, just rude behavior is something you should not expect very much, based on the fact that clients frequent whore monger forums to exchange notes. Treat one client like crap, and chances are that Helen High-Class Hooker will lose some business. I bet that just the rumor that escort X has given you an STD would have serious consequences. Thus, it is in their best interest to always use protection.
Now, from talking to proud whore mongers, I get the sense that reality is not quite as clear cut, meaning that there is some shady business going on, like expensive whores offering bareback to a repeat customer for a higher fee, which is probably not a good sign. Still, I am of the opinion that a regular woman is a greater risk for your health than a professional hooker, based on my experience. What might that experience amount to, you may ask? It's simple: of all the women I've fucked, only a very small minority insisted on condoms. This does not mean that I raw dogged a ton of chicks, though. As much fun as it is to fuck them raw, one proper pregnancy or STD scare is probably enough to make you think twice before pounding her without protection.
It seems the behavior of woman in that regard has a lot to do with the role you play in her life. By now it's well established that women want "beta bucks" and "alpha fucks". If you are an alpha, chances are that she's dripping wet and wants you on a rather primal level. She may even say something like, "you have to be careful now" (translation: "fuck me without a condom if you want"). I've heard variations of "be careful" or "do whatever you want with me" about as often as "we are not going to have sex tonight". More aggressive women may even insist on you fucking her without protection. Heck, she may even pull the condom off your cock. I had several instances of women saying something like "let me help you", proceeding to play with my balls or letting them disappear in her mouth --- and remove the condom in the process. One said she'd "help me" get the condom over my cock, so she takes it --- and just throws it away.
My experience is hardly unique. Every guy I know who has fucked a lot of women has made the same experience: if you are the alpha, the condom is basically optional. On the other hand, betas make different experiences. I once spoke to a guy who wanted to know how he could get his girlfriend to fuck him raw. She probably raw dogged two thirds of her one-night stands, but for her beta provider she has to act differently. Does this remind you of something? Exactly! It is the behavior of "reformed sluts" who go through a sizable number of men and suddenly realize that they are 25 and not getting any younger. She knows that fucking a guy quickly, performing certain sexual acts, or letting him raw dog her may send the wrong signal if her goal is to tie down some beta. Thus, she turns into a prude, but just for him.
The lesson thus is: if you are a beta and think your girl is a prude and would never do something like fucking a hot stranger raw when the opportunity arises then you have some growing up to do. This is precisely why regular girls have a higher risk of having an STD because when they are horny, really horny, then rationality goes out the window. Whether this is good or bad for an alpha male is a matter of perspective. From an evolutionary perspective, though, it makes sense that sexually active women insist on condoms when fucking betas but act more recklessly when they meet an alpha. But for betas they are not quite in such a hurry to get dick. After all, it's a good idea to use protection, isn't it?
What do you think? Let me know in the comments below!
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Man, this was so shocking for me too! So few girls ever insisted on a condom. The first time, I just thought the girl was too drunk and horny to think about it. I got totally weirded out when even on our 2nd, 3rd time night together, she never insisted on one!
ReplyDeleteWhen it then became a pattern with other girls as well, it scared the fuck out of me! The last thing one wants is a STD or a random pregnancy.
No, the last thing you (!) want is a random pregnancy. There are many scenarios where a random pregnancy is exactly what the woman wants. I once came across a story online where some millionaire banged some chick, with a condom. He threw the condom away in the bathroom, and she then tried putting the cum into her vagina. However, that guy was smart --- you could say that his paranoia got vindicated --- and put tabasco sauce on the condom before throwing it away. The chick then tried to sue him, but to no avail.
DeleteThe only tangible "solution" for a man — even a millionaire — in such a situation is to get a vasectomy and have sufficient samples of his sperm stored frozen at his favourite sperm bank. This way no women will ever be able to surprise him with an unwanted pregnancy and should he want to procreate, he can communicate it openly with the girl and it can then take place in a controlled, deliberate way. Ok, granted it's not the most romantic thing in the world, but for men currently the best way to be at par with women and their contraceptive pill.
DeleteDo you think theres are intelligent alpha males? Being intelligent, stuck in their head, valuing things the inside...that's what constitutes a beta. Sexual attraction is inversely proportional to intelligence.
ReplyDeleteYes, of course. There are myriads of ugly and stupid betas, too. Nature isn't fair at all. By the way, intelligence is vastly overrated. Once you're entering 120+, certainly 130+ regions on the IQ scale it tends to be a severe disadvantage in fact. Nobody gives a fuck about how intelligent you are if you don't have any concrete accomplishments, and if you are accomplished, people don't really care either since it's given that you can't be a complete moron. One of the worst behaviors a "beta" can have is building an ego around his alleged intelligence as some kind of compensation for their lack of money or success with chicks. Sure, a beta may feel stung because someone they perceive to be beneath them has dough and chicks. It's appropriate to call it a loser mentality. There is plenty of money in the world to make, and there certainly is no shortage of chicks either. However, this means that you need to make an effort, which is a lot more demanding than maintaining the belief that there are no intelligent alpha males.
ReplyDeleteWhat constitutes an alpha male anyway?
ReplyDeleteThat was my exact same question. From reading your forum the general consensus seems to be that distinguishing between alpha and beta is needless.
DeleteLet's just say that an "alpha" is a guy she fucks because she wants to fuck him, while a "beta" is a guy she will manipulate with sex or the prospect of having sex, which may very well never happen.
DeleteThe problem with the Alpha/Beta-dichotomy for many people is, that they believe, that the "Alpha"-guy is the kind of guy, who will get the girl into the relationship. But this is misleading. Guys who girl rate as alphas are sexually interesting and may exhibit the best genes and traits for survival, but as long as they are not controllable, they're not RL-material for women.
DeleteEvery RL is by definition gynocentric and this of course means, that a guy has to - fully or to some extent — accept her premises for the RL to even get going. This is nothing else than the equivalent of "betaization" and nothing to blame anyone for, since it is an integral part of the male-female-business model.
To state it bluntly: every "alpha" who wishes to enjoy a LTR or any real RL with a woman (beyond one or two ONS), has to buy into the "beta" role — at least partially.
Hey Aaron, I see that you often mention alpha/beta men on your blog. I am curious why you don't discuss this in your books?
ReplyDeleteI must say the tone of your books is much more positive than that of your blog. I often feel depressed after reading the later, while I feel like going out and enjoying life after reading the former.
That's an interesting comment. I wanted Minimal Game and Club Game to be instructive books that tell guys how they can take action and get the best results, relative to their environment. On the other hand, on my blog I have recently mainly been posting as a response to certain observations I have made. Some of the topics could very well re-appear in a book at some point in the future, and then, most likely, in a more positive and encouraging tone.
DeleteThanks for your reply, looking forward to your future books :)
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ReplyDeleteHere's the only workable definition of an alpha male I came across (credit Captain Jack):
The Alpha Male has an ideal scene or an expectation that they are firmly committed to. They have a strong intention, they want things to be a certain way. They know what that certain way is, then they are noticing the way the current environment is, they are noticing the differences, and then they begin to supply the mental energy, the thought and the action in order to morph whatever the current scene is into their ideal scene. It’s about consciously taking responsibility for controlling the area and the physical universe around them. The physical universe includes other people.
There is not a lot of technique, or debate or whishing. What there is, is a deduction: Here is how I want it, here is how it is, what’s the action necessary to correct it. Now I’m going and correcting it. Not a lot of thought there, not a lot of calculating there. Happens quickly.
I knew CJ back in the days around 2005. Back then he already was — and probably still is — just a mediocre copywriter.
DeleteI'm not really sure about this whole alpha/beta dichotomy, because I can tell with all the experiences I had that people just treat everybody absolutely the same way in the long-term (notice "in the long-term").
ReplyDeleteA girl that treats guys like shit, does this with betas and alphas. I'm sure you already noticed that a girl was all over you at the beginning and then 2-3 fuckdates later she just wasn't into sex so much and already wanted to jump on another dick (while not being discreet about it) and basically ignored your existence or said rude things.
If a girl is used to treat guys like shit, once she locked down an alpha, she will not suddenly change her core personality and be a sweet little angel only for him because he is the super duper hyper turbo ultimate alpha.
Well, she is going to treat alphas and betas like shit differently, but that's still treating everybody like shit.