In the current Open Thread, I was asked the following:
Hey Aaron, this is possibly a stupid question, but I wanted to ask. What are your thoughts on women with tattoos being relationship material?
Several guys, at least in America, think that women with ink are automatically out of the running for anything long-term, or say that if she only has a couple that are small or trendy, it's fine. I'm usually quite fond of girls with tattoos (as long as they're well done), but I don't have as much experience as you do, so I thought I'd get your perspective.
Do you think tattooed women are unfit to marry or keep as a longterm girlfriend?Tattoos itself are not necessarily the issue. Instead, ask yourself why women get tattoos, and you will have your answer. In short, women get tattoos in order to send a particular message to their environment. In that regard, it does not really matter how many tattoos she has or how big they are. In fact, I am tempted to say that a middle-class woman with a small "trendy" tattoo located where only her sexual partners can see it is easily as bad as some low-class woman with a tattoo covering most of her body.
In general, tattoos are a very easy means for getting attention, male attention that is. As any guy with sexual experience can probably tell you, a woman with tattoos is likely to be less stable, more outgoing and probably better in the sack than a woman who did not get inked. Let's just keep things simple and state that a woman with tattoos is likely to be crazier than one without.
At the very least, tattoos indicate very poor planning. This is particularly true for women who chose a "trendy" motif. Think about it: Making a permanent change in order to follow a temporary trend is incredibly stupid. OK, your chick has picked something timeless you say. Well, buddy, may I remind you that women age, and that in particular their skin may age a lot faster than male skin. This leads to two problems: First, the tattoo will eventually look washed out as she gets older. This is of course wonderful symbolism since nothing spells washed-up whore like a bunch of washed out tattoos. Second, as her skin changes, her tattoo will look a lot worse. A tattoo that may look good, arousing even, on a skinny 20 year-old with firm skin won't look that great once she is closer to 30. (For guys, this is hardly an issue, by the way, simply because our skin is different.)
Go ahead and fuck women with tattoos all you want. However, tattoos send all the wrong signals for any kind of serious relationship. In fact, if you told me about your sweetheart's tattoos, I would assume that you are a guy with low standards, are desperate, or prone to making poor decisions. If the latter is the case, then I wish you all the best. However, that kind of commonality between man and woman is not the best foundation for a relationship.
Finally, let me address an objection I have heard quite a few times when discussing this issue in real life, namely that if I categorically excluded all women with tattoos from consideration for a serious relationship, I'd exclude a very large number of women. One guy tried twisting my words and had a gleeful smile on his face before triumphantly concluding something along the lines of, "So, if you are right, then you are saying that a very large number of women is unfit for having a serious relationship with." I just looked at him and said, "Yes, that's precisely what I'm saying!" He didn't get it, and probably still doesn't.
What do you think? Let me know in the comments below!
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