I recently signed up for Tinder, strictly for research purposes (this is no joke; maybe there will be some news in that regard sometime soon). As I was swiping around, mostly in the "nope" direction, to be honest, I made some rather curious observations. The most striking one was that there are a ton of older women (27+) on that app. Even more striking was that many of them seemed blissfully unaware of biology. Some had cute emotional messages like that they are sick of "so-called men who only want to have fun" in their profile. Tinder seems to be more of a regular dating app these days anyway, so it's not quite so absurd that they are looking for more than a hookup, even though they may not find it.
Some profiles almost made me sad, though. For instance, there was one of a 31 year-old woman. She had very attractive facial features, to be sure, so she was not one of the many older women who were either never good looking, or only good looking once because they were young. On her profile she wrote, "Married. Three Children.", and after several blank lines, "(Just kidding!)". The humor was lost on me. Well, whether she wanted to have kids or not is entirely her choice, and of course people don't need to be married to be (un)happy. All of that would be besides the point anyway.
To me it seems she wanted to humorously distract from the fact that she was older, yet still looking for hookups, and was not able to get a man when she was in her prime. By doing so, though, she only drew more attention to the difficult situation she was in, because the first thought that comes to my mind when I see a clearly attractive single woman is why on earth she was unable to tie down a guy. Normally, the reason is pretty obvious: plenty of guys want to fuck them, but those women are such a mess that eventually all the guys bail. I made this observation myself plenty of times. Say, you meet a good-looking woman, start banging her, but the more you get to know her, the more you realize that you have to cut her off sooner rather than later because they are drama queens, highly manipulative, and possibly even bipolar.
Note that I am not saying that good-looking women are necessarily a mess. However, whenever you meet a good-looking woman who is unable to keep a man, you need to take a long hard look. If you are looking for love on Tinder, and you meet women who write stuff that seems odd, you are probably better off swiping for "nope".
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