Announcing Club Game: The No-Nonsense Guide to Getting Girls in Clubs and Bars

I've recently posted the table of contents of my next book. Now it's time to formally announce it. Without further ado: the title of my next book is Club Game: The No-Nonsense Guide to Getting Girls in Clubs and Bars. The subtitle is obviously a nod to Minimal Game. While Minimal Game was written to help you getting a decent sex life, Club Game gives an extended insight into an entirely different world, teaching you how to effectively manoeuvre the nightlife, bringing your level of success with women to a much, much higher level. If you thought Minimal Game was extreme, then Club Game will blow your socks off.

I'm very happy with how Club Game turned out. The feedback from the guys reading drafts was enthusiastic. The release is probably going to happen by mid-November.

To further whet your appetite, I'm sharing the preliminary cover image with you as well:

Are we living in a “sizeist and sexist” society?

I have the habit of looking up memes and catch phrases from time to time, to learn about their origin. Since references to the “thigh gap” have become a lot more frequent recently, I investigated that topic for a little while. While thigh gaps arguably always have existed, the actual term has become more widely spread only relatively recently, December 2012 to be exact, according to sources mentioned in the corresponding Wikipedia article.

If you skim that article, you’ll come across a section on criticism of that term, which is where things get more interesting. As it turned out, some feminist sociologist decried the thigh gap, quite certainly a symbol of beauty, as “sizeist and sexist”. But let’s think about this for a while! What do you consider more likely? That (a subset of) girls take care of themselves and try to look as good as they can because that’s what they see in ads, or that they do so because they see, in reality, that slimmer and better looking girls fuck hotter guys? I’d bet a lot more on the latter than the former hypothesis.

One of the most disrespectful women I ever saw

A while ago I was hanging out with some old friends. We went to a nearby bar, where, eventually, something quite remarkable happened. A woman was walking in with a guy who seemed to be her boyfriend. After they had gotten their drinks, she turned his back to him, so that she was now facing the barkeeper. This made her guy feel uncomfortable, so he positioned himself sideways as well. She was no longer looking at him. At that point, I began to pay closer attention to them.

What happened next was downright bizarre. The guy tried to kiss her, and judging from his position, it must have been uncomfortable for him, both emotionally and physiologically, to do so. She at first leaned in, then moved away, looking sternly at him and wiggling her index finger to indicate that he should behave. He tried kissing her again, and the scene repeated itself. It seemed as if he was being trained like a dog. That was bad enough already. After his third try, she seemingly gave in, but only gave him a peck on his lips. No, PUA morons, this is not an example of the "power of persistence".

Can Sean Stephenson even have sex?

People find my blog through all kinds of search phrases. Some I find quite remarkable, though. Infrequently, there are phrases that combine ‘sex’ and ’Sean Stephenson’, for instance in ‘can sean stephenson have sex?’. We’ve been talking about that guy a bit some time ago, in the comments section of Confessions of a Convert. However, since I haven’t written a lot about PUA scammers recently, that guy is as good a target as anybody else.

Some people just get it

As many of you know, I’ve long been harping on the PUA community for their absurd claim that “game” would get you girls, instead of looks and money (and status, which is often related). For those of you who have been following this scene for years, you've surely came across countless clowns who pronounced “looks don’t matter” or that anyone could “get any girl”.

PUA culture is one extreme of a fundamentally flawed society. However, what you hear and read in the mainstream is equally damaging. Homely girls get told that “inner beauty” counts, while shy guys are encouraged to keep acting passively, because one day some princess might recognise them after all and realize what a wonderful person they are. It’s rare that anybody bluntly tells girls that if they want to fuck hot guys, they better be hot, too, and guys that if they want to get anywhere with girls, even average looking ones, they better have something going on in their life. Dating is not like primary school where everybody gets a golden star for warming a chair.

Mailbag: Involuntary celibacy is a symptom of shortcomings in your life

I received an interesting comment by lance84 on What is ‘hope’ worth to you? He wrote:

Usually when a man finds himself in an extended period of involuntary celibacy, it is usually indicative of shortcomings in other areas of life. When this is the case, focus should be shifted from his failings with women to overall self improvement. When enough "betterment" is obtained, pussy should come pouring in, which is just the cherry on top of the sense of being a more fulfilled man. 

I don’t agree with the self-help lingo, but the general observation remains. If you chase women like crazy but you can’t get anywhere, then it’s time you take a long, hard look at yourself. It could well be that your environment is not conducive for picking up girls. Small, conservative towns spring to mind. However, in any reasonably-sized city, there should be plenty of available women around — but most certainly not enough to brainlessly run PUA game.

Mailbag: Dick Questions

I received quite a few questions, all in one comment, regarding the size of male and female sexual organs. There are probably a few who’ll find this interesting, so it’s well-warranted to make a separate post on this. Those questions originally appeared in a comment on Some critical Feedback to "Debunking", Part II.

Just a few questions about the BIG DICK issue:
1) Did women actually take a look at your crotch and could you notice a change in their attitude after it? (I assume you were wearing tight jeans in the clubs?)

Some have certainly noticed it. I remember one chick who took pictures of my crotch, which I only found out because she accidentally uploaded them to Facebook. There were a few others who I suspect to have taken pictures of the silhouette of my cock. In general, though, it seems to make them more likely to stick around. I’d say it’s similar to when you realize that the girl you’re  talking to has a much bigger rack than you at first assumed, because she’s not wearing a push-up bra.

Mailbag: What’s ‘hope’ worth to you?

My article The "three billion women" argument gets a surprising amount of traffic. Its message is not often appreciated, though, just like it was the case with ‘Mircea Enache’, who wrote:

So what's your point with this article Aaron ?

To have a pessimistic view about getting laid and shouldn't even bother approaching ?
At least when you hear there are 3 billion girls it gives you hope ... it doesn't matter if it's real or not .
Knowing the real truth doesn't even motivate me to approach anymore ... it means I rather make a lot of money in order to move from one city to another ... and that's just stupid.

Spoken like a true moron, I’m tempted to say. I don’t think I’m a pessimistic person at all. If anything, I’m a realist. Further, I detest sugarcoating things to make them more easily digestible. As a society, we’re quite bad at being truthful. Instead, we’re getting bullshitted left, right, and center. Women are being told that their “inner beauty” counts, despite the fact that if she doesn’t look appealing, she will never be able to demonstrate how great her personality is (which often isn’t so great to begin with), or think of the “cock size doesn’t matter” nonsense guys get told.

Mailbag: A Quick Fix to Resolve Sexual Frustration

Some days ago I received an interesting comment on my post “Get out while you can”, which is a reminder that chasing tail isn’t healthy for you in the long run. You just won’t be a successful player in your 50s. At that age your chances of getting with women will be greatly influenced by your position in life, and many avenues where you could easily pull women won’t be accessible to you anymore.

I’m not going to make the claim that you have to settle down. It’s perfectly fine to realize that this whole “women thing” is vastly overrated, and focus on other goals in life. Your chances of being miserable surely increase a lot of you end up in an unhappy relationship, and considering how sky-high divorce rates are, that fate seems more likely than not.

But back to the comment I alluded to before! There was a lot in it, so let me go through it once by one:

Hm. What if you would not have "seen/done it all"?
What if you have never really become good? Would you still be chasing tail?

Table of contents of my next book

Those of you who are members of my forum know that I've been working on getting my next book out. It's now almost done. To whet your appetite, I'm posting the table of contents below. As you can see, it's on club game. Hopefully, the book will be out by mid-November.

Just like with Minimal Game, this book will be chock-full of practical and realistic advice. In a nutshell, you'll get my distilled knowledge of years spent partying and pulling girls. I'm quite confident that many of you will find it useful. The feedback from my proofreaders has been highly enthusiastic.

I'll post more updates soon. Once this book is out, I expect to once again have some time for writing articles for my blog, too.