Mailbag: A Quick Fix to Resolve Sexual Frustration

Some days ago I received an interesting comment on my post “Get out while you can”, which is a reminder that chasing tail isn’t healthy for you in the long run. You just won’t be a successful player in your 50s. At that age your chances of getting with women will be greatly influenced by your position in life, and many avenues where you could easily pull women won’t be accessible to you anymore.

I’m not going to make the claim that you have to settle down. It’s perfectly fine to realize that this whole “women thing” is vastly overrated, and focus on other goals in life. Your chances of being miserable surely increase a lot of you end up in an unhappy relationship, and considering how sky-high divorce rates are, that fate seems more likely than not.

But back to the comment I alluded to before! There was a lot in it, so let me go through it once by one:

Hm. What if you would not have "seen/done it all"?
What if you have never really become good? Would you still be chasing tail?

This question is addressed to me personally. Frankly, I’ve always held the belief that I was attractive, based on how women reacted to me. Arguably, this largely has to do with the fact that I’m 6’3”. I’d say that I’m different from most people because I feel very comfortable with myself, supremely even, and greatly enjoy my own company. I often notice that a lot of guys think that having a girlfriend, or just some woman every now and then, will somehow fix their life and make them happy. This most certainly doesn’t work because happiness starts with yourself.

Had this “women thing” turned out to be more work than fun, I’m quite confident that I would simply have gone back to the kind of life I had been living before, not unlike trying out some sport and realizing that it's not as fun as you thought it was.

Furthermore what do you think it would it have done to your self esteem and overall life confidence?

Nothing at all. I was perfectly happy without having women in my life. Before my metamorphosis to "Sleazy Rockstar",  I only viewed women as a distraction, which was the reason I didn't want to get involved with them. In fact, the main reason why I began chasing tail was that I was reevaluating some of my personal goals, which had the side effect that I suddenly felt as if I had a great deal of spare time. I won’t claim that my situation was unique, but it was certainly a rather uncommon one.

Don't get me wrong, I like your stuff very much and agree with you most of the time, but it is easy to say, this is all overrated, if you got yourself saturated, so to say.
Especially if you just have to pick up the phone to get laid.

That’s an interesting point. Yes, it’s fantastic if you have some girls on call for sexual services. However, any guy who is willing to pay for escorts gets the same, and with even less of a hassle. In both situations it's not as if you're interested in building much of a personal connection.

Due to my genetics, life circumstances etc. I will probably never get in a position where I will stop being at least to some degree sexually frustrated and feeling bitter about it.

It’s unfortunate that you think this way. However, to quickly get rid of your sexual frustration, all it takes is investing a few hundred dollars in escorts every once in a while. Since you seem to not have had much experience with women, they can’t have cost you a lot of money. Thus, we’re talking about a rather minor expense. If needed, just fuck two or three escorts on a long weekend, and you’ll see that sex is kind of nice, but probably not quite what you make it out to be. Oh, and relationships move past the honeymoon phase too, so don't delude yourself that it will be a constant high. It's easy for me to say, but I really don't think that you’re missing out on a lot. Why do you think wealthy and powerful men pay escorts? They could easily get laid otherwise, but apparently it’s not worth the hassle for them.